I am in love with love, especially black love. I did not have the best representation of love as a child but I somehow managed to still believe. Despite growing up in a broken home, raising my daughter with an absent father, and having a failed engagement, I still root for love, especially black love. Why black love? Statistically, black children are more likely to grow up in a one parent home than white counterparts. In the film and television industry, you are more likely to see broken homes among African Americans. However, there has been a boost of people supporting the #blacklove movement.
On this Melanin Monday post, I am honored to write about one of my favorite black love couples, Jean & Jarrod. Before meeting Jarrod, Jean and I would have numerous conversations about him. He was off in NY pursuing his masters degree and Jean had recently relocated to Atlanta. She told me that he was coming to Atlanta to visit and we were both excited that I could finally meet him. We met up at a St. Patrick’s Day event but after fighting Atlanta traffic to get there, I was
HANGRY and not in the best mood. Not a good first impression on my part but surprisingly he still had a great attitude (real MVP). Before splitting ways, Jarrod mentioned the idea of my daughter and I hanging out with the two of them for the rest of his stay. I did not want to intrude on their alone time but his response was “it’s important to get to know her friends too.” I secretly wanted to shout “yasssss” after that statement but for the sake of not embarrassing my friend, I remained silent. He definitely earned brownie points for that. I am a firm believer in the statement, “Show me your friends and I will show you who you are!”
Before I met Jarrod, Jean told me that “he was the one.” We as girls know that isn’t just a statement we throw out there. When she said it I knew it was serious. After that visit, I knew he was the one for her too! A year later, Jarrod sent me a text inviting me to witness his beautifully planned proposal in Florida. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to make it but I was cheering states away. Although this is just the beginning of a lifetime, I admire both of their desires to be intentional about courting and sealing the deal with marriage and true black love. Jean and Jarrod, congrats on the engagement, congrats on the future marriage, and congrats on my future babies!
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul;that makes us reach for more, that plants fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”